Feathering a nest. Have you ever stopped to watch a pair of adult birds take their time to intricately put together a home for what will be their tiny family? It’s a lesson in nature’s ability to create a safe haven, a place to be.
For the past 29 years Rob and I have feathered our nest. We’ve gathered the bricks for our foundation, built a home and feathered it with more blankets and pillows than you can imagine. In the past month we’ve had the joy of having all of our kids under one roof. We’ve moved furniture to ensure there were places to sleep. We even moved kids from the comfort of their own room to sofa beds and air mattresses. Why? Because many of our birds have left the nest and when they return we move a twig here and there to make room.
In the midwest we have open houses for High School graduations. They are a big deal. We plan and plan and celebrate big with family and friends. Recently two comments made me pause, “Why High School? What’s The Big Deal?” and “I’ve never seen anything like this – it’s a spectacle!” This year our 5th of 6 kids graduated from Forest Hills. We celebrated. Big Time. Every child made it home, even the one who is just starting a new job and took a 6am flight back and forth to make it. We appreciate this. Big Time.
I can tell you why for me personally High School Graduation is so important. Because High School years are the final moments you really have a say as a parent in helping shaping your children’s values. Once High School is over you really let go. And it’s not easy. Will they be polite, will they attend class, will they make great friends for life, will they behave, will they learn, will they LEARN?! For me, I look around and hope the life-long learning my husband and I do has rubbed off. You can only learn so much in school, then it’s time to realize you never stop, and it’s a blast to learn in ways you never thought possible.
This summer we will have learners in , Chicago, Il., Harrisburg, PA, Edmonton, Canada, Mount Pleasant , Kalamazoo, Grandville and and Cascade, Michigan. We will have learners landing new jobs and leading in new ones. We will have learners working all different shifts, through Holidays and #PureMichigan sunshine. Each of us are at different ages and stages in life and we share one thing. We all either went through or are almost finished with High School. After this milestone we each take our different path. We will falter, stumble, succeed, falter , stumble and succeed again.
We also share one other thing; a feathered nest waiting for return trips. A place we know will always be a safe haven, a place to go. It’s our own feathered nest. We’ve made it our own.
It’s now that I realize we feather it for a very specific reason. We feather our nest so when our birds fly on their own, our landing as parents isn’t quite so hard.